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• People have used generative-AI chatbot ChatGPT for many tasks, from writing cover letters to coding.
• Insider asked dating coaches what they think of ChatGPT’s advice for online and in-person dating.
• Some of ChatGPT’s advice was impressive to the coaches, but they all think their jobs are safe.

Thanks to technology advancement, dating should be easier than ever, with several ways to meet people online, keep up with them on social media, and talk to them through text and video calls.

But even with multiple apps and bar options, it’s hard to know how to navigate the world of dating.

Endless blog posts and guides explain how to approach someone you’re interested in, or even how to break up with someone. But now, artificial intelligence is involved.

Enter ChatGPT, a generative-AI chatbot that’s been all over social media and the news lately for helping jobseekers write cover letters and tech company employees with software coding.

Insider asked ChatGPT for a range of relationship advice, like how to build a dating app profile and how to know when you want to marry your partner. Four online and in-person dating coaches gave their feedback on the chatbot’s advice, and while some of them found it impressive, none of them thinks their jobs are at risk.

While some of the more general advice from ChatGPT can help, Amy Nobile, who owns dating coaching service Love, Amy, said there are deeper layers to relationships that AI can’t get to. 

“There’s tone, there’s intuition, and there’s emotion, and all of these nuanced human qualities,” Nobile said.

Below are some of ChatGPT’s responses to Insider’s relationship questions and what the human relationship experts think of them.

Nobile said ChatGPT’s advice to mention something in a man’s profile is “decent,” but that its advice to “be respectful and considerate of his feelings and boundaries” and be “confident and direct” makes no sense, because it sounds more like advice for an in-person meeting. 

Her first piece of advice is to have an opener you always use.

“Ask a question that you are genuinely interested in knowing the answer to,” Nobile said. Some examples include asking about their favorite podcast or brunch spot.

“I think the more modern advice is, you want less people to like your profile,” Nobile said. “You want to be so specific in your profile about what you want, who you are, and what you like, that you’re not getting a million likes, that the people who are liking your profile are more aligned with you.”

Max Alley, an online-dating coach who runs Match Up Online Dating Coaching in New York City, said examples of “complaining about past relationships,” include saying “no hookups” or saying you’re looking for people only willing to commit.

He said one big thing ChatGPT is missing is videos. 

“It’s still newish, but on Hinge and Tinder, videos are the best type of content out there,” Alley said. It should be silly, fun, not super show off-y, short, and should have your voice in it.”

Having a video can help the algorithm boost your profile.

Alley said he would advise against adding too many travel photos, and instead opt for photos from your life to show who you are on a day-to-day basis. He also said he recommends a fuller length photo and photos without sunglasses.

“In online dating, you want to stand out, whereas ChatGPT is going to show you what it thinks you’re supposed to put on a dating profile,” Alley said. 

Alley said he talks about conversation strategies differently between men and women. ChatGPT’s advice is more geared toward men, Alley said, because they are more relevant to courting someone. He said he sometimes recommends that women bring up controversial or heavy topics to vet whether or not they’re interested in a man.

“Women, when they come to me, they’re like, ‘how do I vet this guy,’ because for heterosexual women, often the men are ready to go out with them once they’ve already matched,” Alley said. “Women’s goal is not to necessarily build attraction or build connection, it’s to figure out if this guy’s a psychopath or not.”

Alley said he thinks some of ChatGPT’s advice could apply to non-heterosexual couples too.

Paris and Joseph Dixon, a married couple who run the RealBlackLove matchmaking agency and dating app, said they would add if you’re asking someone on a date, you should tell them why you want to go with them.

“Find reasons of commonality and then say, ‘Hey, I would love for us to get to know each other a little bit more, would you like to go out?,” Joseph said.

“Anybody who’s cutting the cord or breaking up with someone, we have to consider the exact scenario,” Nobile said. “If someone’s been rude or betrayed them in some way…you don’t need to be in person. It’s more dependent on the situation and what’s led up to the breakup.”

Nobile said a person who is ending a relationship also should be mindful of protecting their own boundaries. 

Paris said it’s also a good idea to practice the breakup and know what you’re going to say. Like Nobile, she said how the breakup goes depends on how you and your partner have drifted apart.

Paris said she would add that you need to qualify why you love the person.

“Understand why you’re in love and what you love about that person,” she said. “It’s just important to let your partner know your feelings are genuine, but there’s a process to falling in love with someone, and there’s an emotional attachment that happens based off of experiences.”

Nobile thought ChatGPT’s advice for how to know if you want to marry your partner, was “very good,” and that it mirrors some of her own relationship advice.

“I have a three-four rule, so early on in dating, you need to check four boxes,” Nobile said. “That is connection and chemistry, core value alignment, emotional maturity and availability, and readiness.”

Nobile said this advice is tricky, because someone can do all of these things for their own self-validation, not because they’re actually interested.

“They can flirt, they can touch you, they can have sex with you, they can call you whatever beautiful names, they can text you all day, it literally does not mean that they even like you,” Nobile said, or that they like you enough to pursue a deeper relationship.

Nobile said it’s a good point to remember that people can’t assume anything, and that conversations about compatibility and core values need to happen early in the relationship.

Dealing with human behavior is “really tough,” Nobile said. “You can’t give people one size fits all answers.”

Joseph said he’s not afraid that ChatGPT will put him and his wife out of a job.

“The whole point is getting real-life feedback from someone who’s actually been through it,” Joseph said. “A robot has never been through these feelings, these emotions, these situations.”

• I asked ChatGPT questions about markets and showed the answers to Morningstar Investment Management CIO Dan Kemp.
• He called some of its knowledge “remarkable” – but isn’t worried it’ll put top strategists out of their jobs anytime soon.
• “It provides answers, but it doesn’t ask questions like a good investment manager,” Kemp said.

Intelligent language tool ChatGPT can write cover letters, generate dating app messages – and provide investing advice.

Inspired by my esteemed colleagues Bea Nolan and Phil Rosen, I decided to find out whether the bot’s insight on markets is up to scratch.

I fed the OpenAI program four questions that are top-of-mind for investors right now, and then shared its responses with Morningstar Investment Management’s global CIO Dan Kemp.

Kemp, whose firm manages around $250 billion worth of assets, was impressed with the quality of ChatGPT’s knowledge and prose but said it lacked the depth of analysis you’d find speaking to a top stock picker or financial advisor.

“The quality of its responses is remarkable,” he told me. “That said, I don’t think it’s helpful as an investment decision-making tool, either for professionals or laypeople.” 

“It provides factual answers that are descriptive and are generalized,” Kemp added. “But it doesn’t ask questions like a good investment manager does.”

Here are the four questions I asked ChatGPT:

• How should I invest during a recession?
• What impact will the Federal Reserve’s interest-rate increases have on a portfolio?
• What investments are a good hedge against high inflation?
• Should I invest in cryptocurrencies?

The questions reflect some of the biggest ongoing concerns of retail investors – after the threat of a recession, Fed rate hikes and high inflation rattled stocks and caused the the ‘crypto winter’ of the past year.

ChatGPT quickly churned out a set of answers you’d find in a good markets textbook – recommending “invest[ing] in companies that have a strong track record of performance” during a recession and saying that “higher interest rates can make stocks less attractive to investors, which can lead to a decline in stock prices”.

Kemp told me he was impressed with the breadth of the bot’s knowledge – especially its ability to avoid unnecessary jargon when producing stock market content.

“It’s quite amazing how ChatGPT can gather what is known about a particular subject by the investment community and then convey it in a very understandable format,” he said. “If you haven’t used ChatGPT before, it’s genuinely surprising that an engine can do that with subjects as diverse as recessions and cryptocurrencies.”

But the bot can only generate what Kemp called “first-level responses” – meaning that while its knowledge of the stock market is impressive, it can’t apply that knowledge to specific situations in the manner a top Wall Street analyst or old-fashioned financial advisor would.

“It can tell you the things that everybody knows,” he said. “When you asked it about inflation hedges, it mentions inflation-linked assets – clearly, that’s correct, but that’s a very limited help when making an investment decision.” 

“When making investments, you not only have to consider the fair return of investment, but also the price at which it’s trading,” Kemp added. “So you have to understand not only the basic features of an investment, but also how that investment is perceived by other investors.”

“That’s what people call second-level thinking – and it’s something that ChatGPT doesn’t appear able to do.”

Kemp was also concerned with ChatGPT’s response to my question on cryptocurrencies. The bot told me that “investing in cryptocurrencies is a high-risk, high-reward endeavor” – but rising interest rates meant most digital assets offered no returns at all in 2022, with the largest token bitcoin‘s price plummeting over 60% to under $17,000.

“I found this troubling because ChatGPT has clearly learned that to gain a high return, you typically have to take a high risk,” he told me. “It’s an interesting mistake and it’s one that lots of investors made last year – not every high risk comes with a high reward.”

Kemp’s feedback chimes with what people tend to love – and dislike – about ChatGPT.

The language tool can churn out high-quality content alarmingly quickly – but its words tend to lack personality and depth.

So don’t expect it to become a go-to engine for investing advice anytime soon.

• Tidying guru Marie Kondo says she’s done with constantly keeping her house neat.
• Kondo said after three kids, she’s “kind of given up” on constantly tidying up, per The Washington Post.
• Kondo has spent years — and built a career around — advocating for spotless homes.

Tidying guru Marie Kondo says that after having three children, she too has given up on keeping her house spotless.

“Up until now, I was a professional tidier, so I did my best to keep my home tidy at all times,” Kondo said at a recent webinar, per The Washington Post.

“I have kind of given up on that in a good way for me. Now I realize what is important to me is enjoying spending time with my children at home,” she added. 

Kondo added during the webinar that her home might now be “messy,” but she feels she is spending her time “the right way.” 

Kondo had her third child — a boy — in April 2021. She has two other children with her husband Takumi Kawahara, daughters Satsuki and Miko, per People. 

Kondo built a business empire around advocating for clean homes. Her book, “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up,” topped the New York Times Best Seller list in 2014. 

Kondo’s “KonMari” cleaning method inspired people to whip their homes into shape by discarding things that do not “spark joy.” The method sparked a movement, and people around the world have been “Kondo-ing” their homes and decluttering their workspaces. 

Her book also sparked a Netflix special, “Tidying Up,” which gave people tips on how to keep their living spaces neat.

Representatives for Kondo did not immediately respond to Insider’s request for comment.